With Sherry Turkle’s opinion piece in yesterday’s New York Times, The Flight From Conversation, a dialog has sprung up about the impact of today’s social technologies on personal interaction. These kinds of commentaries always appear when new technologies emerge that offer new ways for people to interact and engage. And they are true in a way.
Years ago, a co-worker had a tendency to send me emails even though he was two cubes away . It annoyed me and felt like he was avoiding face-to-face interaction. I responded by constantly parking myself in his cube to engage in a conversation on all of the items he emailed me. The one-to-one conversations lead to a better understanding between us and ultimately more effective email communication.
Surely all of us have sat in long, boring meetings doing our email, or texting on our iPhone only to be embarrassed when our name is mentioned or something comes up later that we missed while being distracted. I think Sherry Turkle’s article is a good reminder that sometimes putting down the technology and seeking people out for a face-to-face conversation is the right solution. Ultimately our most important relationships are with people. We should not lose sight of that. Technology often does facilitate those relationships but we have to have judgment in how we use it.
We are all guilty of using the latest gadget to excess. When all you have is a bright, shiny new hammer (or social networking site), everything looks like a nail. Social networking isn’t bad except when it is. Everybody should lighten up, social networking has a place in your life, it just shouldn’t BE your life.